Bridal shower etiquette

[cjsmith]

One of the vet techs at the clinic where I work is getting married soon, and I'm invited to her bridal shower.

I have no idea what gift, if any, to bring. If she is registered on any wedding gift list thingy, I don't know about it. She has mentioned, once, that rather than any material gift she'd rather have help setting up / cleaning up for the party -- but I think she meant the one after the wedding, not the shower. I can't attend the wedding; I'm working (at the clinic!) that day.

I also have no idea what to wear. Keep in mind that there are no pants in the world that fit me except one specific brand of jeans, so that's what I own, and if I'm to wear a dress or skirt, it is going to go with unshaved legs, white ankle socks, and these shoes.

Ideas? Thoughts? Is either of these the kind of question one asks the maid of honor?

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[mbumby.livejournal.com]

When we have showers for folks at work, luckily usually someone organizes a group gift. So everyone chips in a couple (or a couple dozen) bucks, and the mom/bride/whatever to be gets something large-and-useful. And usually a few smaller-but-still-useful things. I'm not terribly social (and I HATE shopping, and I truly suck at buying gifts), so I'm happiest if I can throw money, sign the card, and not go. When it's at work, I will take a few minutes, make an appearance, and scoot back to my desk. G'luck.