Bridal shower etiquette

[cjsmith]

One of the vet techs at the clinic where I work is getting married soon, and I'm invited to her bridal shower.

I have no idea what gift, if any, to bring. If she is registered on any wedding gift list thingy, I don't know about it. She has mentioned, once, that rather than any material gift she'd rather have help setting up / cleaning up for the party -- but I think she meant the one after the wedding, not the shower. I can't attend the wedding; I'm working (at the clinic!) that day.

I also have no idea what to wear. Keep in mind that there are no pants in the world that fit me except one specific brand of jeans, so that's what I own, and if I'm to wear a dress or skirt, it is going to go with unshaved legs, white ankle socks, and these shoes.

Ideas? Thoughts? Is either of these the kind of question one asks the maid of honor?

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[leback.livejournal.com]

I also think asking the maid of honor is a good idea -- at least ideally, she is someone who knows the bride well enough to have a clue! It also occurs to me that if what the bride really wants is wedding setup/cleanup assistance, she may well be delighted to accept some of that even prior to the day of. I've never planned a wedding, but in the movies, it always seems to involve an extraordinary lot of busywork for months beforehand...