Bridal shower etiquette

[cjsmith]

One of the vet techs at the clinic where I work is getting married soon, and I'm invited to her bridal shower.

I have no idea what gift, if any, to bring. If she is registered on any wedding gift list thingy, I don't know about it. She has mentioned, once, that rather than any material gift she'd rather have help setting up / cleaning up for the party -- but I think she meant the one after the wedding, not the shower. I can't attend the wedding; I'm working (at the clinic!) that day.

I also have no idea what to wear. Keep in mind that there are no pants in the world that fit me except one specific brand of jeans, so that's what I own, and if I'm to wear a dress or skirt, it is going to go with unshaved legs, white ankle socks, and these shoes.

Ideas? Thoughts? Is either of these the kind of question one asks the maid of honor?

Comments

[lindalee.livejournal.com]

Yes, definitely ask the maid of honor for details, or the host of the party, if that's someone different.

What to wear can vary really widely depending on the type of party, so that's hard to say...so again, ask.

Some showers have gift themes...like cooking implements, or lingerie, or something. If this is the case, it would have probably been listed on the invitation.

If there is a registry, that should really only be a suggestion, anyway. At the time of my bridal shower last Spring, I had a wedding registry, but not a shower registry, and a few people gave me things off of the wedding registry, but I think most didn't. Everything that people gave me was really great, and it was a huge range of things, with (I'm quite sure) a huge range of price tags...garden stuff, a bathrobe, a massage gift certificate, a funny-looking bright orange monkey vegetable peeler. Just give your friend something that you think she'll like, and more importantly, show up and make it a great party by adding one more cool person to the event.

That's my story and I'm sticking to it. :-)

[evilegg.livejournal.com]

Your advice is better than mine. I was gonna say send a gift and skip that shit, but this what a horrible person I am: I have been a bride's maid two times and maid of honor three times, but I have only ever even attended one shower, and I have never hosted one. It really doesn't occur to me that other people like the things I don't like.