Bridal shower etiquette

[cjsmith]

One of the vet techs at the clinic where I work is getting married soon, and I'm invited to her bridal shower.

I have no idea what gift, if any, to bring. If she is registered on any wedding gift list thingy, I don't know about it. She has mentioned, once, that rather than any material gift she'd rather have help setting up / cleaning up for the party -- but I think she meant the one after the wedding, not the shower. I can't attend the wedding; I'm working (at the clinic!) that day.

I also have no idea what to wear. Keep in mind that there are no pants in the world that fit me except one specific brand of jeans, so that's what I own, and if I'm to wear a dress or skirt, it is going to go with unshaved legs, white ankle socks, and these shoes.

Ideas? Thoughts? Is either of these the kind of question one asks the maid of honor?

Comments

[takhisis.livejournal.com]

I would absolutely ask the maid of honor about the registry.

There is some massive idiocy that it's "unbearably tacky" to mention your registry in any way that's convenient to the wedding guests, and people are absolutely supposed to individually ask the bride, the mother of the bride, or the maid of honor to get the SEEKRIT SPESHUL INFO.

I thought that sounded like a massively stupid pain in the ass for no reason, so I just included a URL in my wedding invites that led to a site that had info on the registry, the venues, driving directions, dress code, and hotel discount blocks we had booked for out of state guests. :)

But that may be the reason she hasn't said anything, if she's doing the Emily Post routine. I broke so many "rules" at our wedding (and had so much family drama as a result) I'm probably not the best person to ask. ;)