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Two more days and I'll be on a plane coming home. Hard to believe.
I've realized quite a few things on this trip. I suppose that's one thing vacations are good for: taking a step back and seeing what I've been too busy to notice.
1. There is almost nothing about the life I am coming back to that I like. That's very freeing. I can ditch the lot. (Except my feet, sadly.) More on this later.
2. I isolate myself strongly. However, there are some kinds of contact that I want and need (and am not getting). I have to think about this a bit; most times I isolate myself for very good reasons. More on this later too.
3. People apparently see me as strong, confident, etc etc. Inner conflict or wimpiness doesn't show. The vast painful reasons I isolate myself don't show. I think I am a geode. Crack the hard outer shell and I'm totally different inside. Right now it's mainly empty in there, but give me some time and it may be pretty.
4. I need a form of vigorous physical activity I enjoy. This will take some planning; I desperately want to be self-propelled and to be outdoors, which means finding some OTHER activity I enjoy that will strengthen these arms and hands first.
5. There is no point in having money unless I spend it on the things I need: food, shelter, and my physical well-being. If I need a multi-thousand-dollar lightweight athletic-style wheelchair I should buy one. If I need a $7K sit-down Segway I should buy one.
In short, I don't much like who I am lately, and at least some of that is stuff I can change. I will become -- in some weird fashion perhaps -- physically fit again. I will learn to find people I enjoy. I know I can't have the life I want, but I can build something worth having.
I've realized quite a few things on this trip. I suppose that's one thing vacations are good for: taking a step back and seeing what I've been too busy to notice.
1. There is almost nothing about the life I am coming back to that I like. That's very freeing. I can ditch the lot. (Except my feet, sadly.) More on this later.
2. I isolate myself strongly. However, there are some kinds of contact that I want and need (and am not getting). I have to think about this a bit; most times I isolate myself for very good reasons. More on this later too.
3. People apparently see me as strong, confident, etc etc. Inner conflict or wimpiness doesn't show. The vast painful reasons I isolate myself don't show. I think I am a geode. Crack the hard outer shell and I'm totally different inside. Right now it's mainly empty in there, but give me some time and it may be pretty.
4. I need a form of vigorous physical activity I enjoy. This will take some planning; I desperately want to be self-propelled and to be outdoors, which means finding some OTHER activity I enjoy that will strengthen these arms and hands first.
5. There is no point in having money unless I spend it on the things I need: food, shelter, and my physical well-being. If I need a multi-thousand-dollar lightweight athletic-style wheelchair I should buy one. If I need a $7K sit-down Segway I should buy one.
In short, I don't much like who I am lately, and at least some of that is stuff I can change. I will become -- in some weird fashion perhaps -- physically fit again. I will learn to find people I enjoy. I know I can't have the life I want, but I can build something worth having.
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We just want to see more of you, flaws and all. Do what you can to enjoy life and friends and family. Don't be afraid to ask for help.
Swimming is Great Excercise and doesn't tax the feet. And it's cousin Water Aerobics is Great and again Feet Easy. Both will develop your upper body strength. I have lousy arches and my calf was torn when I was younger, so I have to be careful with foot things too. Every time I've tried a floor excercise program I end up feeling like I've broken my ankle. Ugh. And I was a Ballet Dancer before I got injured (not Ballet related).
Electric Scooters are your friend, and can easily be rented at the larger cons. If the con is smaller, you can usually find a local rental place and have it delivered to the Con Hotel. Big Harold can't walk or stand for long periods of time, so we've been there too.
Most of fandom is helpful and useful. So remember to ask for help and usefulness and you will receive.
*Hugs* for helping you deal with it all.