Dreams

[cjsmith]

This must be "midlife crisis".

A LiveJournal friend asked what people's dreams were and how they changed over the years. Here's how I answered "what did I want to be when I grew up":

Astronaut. I "figured out" I couldn't do that because I was a girl; by the time I learned differently it was too late.

Blue Angel pilot. Yeah, still a girl.

Writer. I never really wrote anything, at least anything that didn't suck. I'm not sure what that says about me and my dreams but it probably isn't good.

Much later I decided I'd be one of those feisty old ladies who ran marathons into her seventies. So much for that.

Now I'd kind of like to be a veterinarian, but I'm not sure I want it enough to raze my life to the ground and start over.

(Plus of course the whole standing up thing. Realistically, veterinarian is not for me this lifetime.)

Computer programmer and square dance caller weren't ever really on the list. Person who works from 6:15am to some time around 8:30pm wasn't on the list. (That was yesterday.) Person with cats, yes; that's always been there. I'd like a dog some day, if I find a means of income that involves being home during waking hours.

But that's the interesting question now, isn't it: do I have any dreams? Any that are left, that is. Those I've discarded I've discarded for good reasons, and while that hurts a lot, I'm not going to change it. Do I have new dreams? Have a dog? Okay, that's one. Anything else? Is that the best I can do?

It's time to reinvent myself.

I wish it were a faster process.

Comments

[shadopanther.livejournal.com]

Over the years, I've wanted to be an artist, an astronaut, an engineer, an inventor, habitat restorer, and an ecologist (applied or scholarly). I still consder myself an artist, though I've not created much recently. Closest I've gotten to being an astronaut was going to the US Space Academy (http://www.spacecamp.com/) in 1989 and working at NASA-Ames Research Park (2003). Engineering & inventing mostly end up tinkering or jury-rigging things when needed. Habitat restoration and ecology is what my degree is in, but I have not managed to find a paying job in it that matches my level of experience. --- So instead, I found myself doing web design, system administration, and network administration because it was what needed to be done. (And at present, I'm thinking web/sysadmin/network admin may still be my most feasbile best paid option for my current skill set. I even had an interview for such recently, but the company back-tracked and decided they were not going to hire anyone right now afterall.)

For me the hangup on the pilot-route for being an astronaut is I'm 1 inch too short, but I think I'm just as glad not to have signed my life away into the military.

You have my sympathy on the useless career counseling person. I've gotten the run around from some of those as well, both when I was in college, and since. For whatever I do I know I have: a good spatial aptitude, a good mechanical aptitude, I'm creative, I have a high reasoning ability, I can be detail oriented, I can manage to see the big picture, I can translate between technical jargon and lay-speak, I'm adaptable, I can learn-on-the-job, I'm good at reasearch and database searches, I have a science (biology etc) /art /econ /geography (gps & gis) background. I figure I can work indoors or out, but I'm developing a preference for working indoors (mostly), and the ability to telecommute would be quite nice. I enjoy engaging my brain and having some level of responsibility, of making a difference, improving systems or proceedures. I like design and restoration. I can draw, write, layout, administer, coordinate, teach. ....and with all that, I'm not quite sure where I fit, but I'd like to find a better, more engaging, better paid fit than where I am now.

As for the nature walk guide idea you mentioned to sunnydale47, I think the amount of use of feet might depend on where one worked. The docent work I did at Elkhorn Slough (http://www.elkhornslough.org/) had a lot of walking & was all volunteer. I enjoyed telling people about the plants and animals and participating in the oak woodland and other native species restoration programs, but volunteer doesn't pay the bills.