Thank you

[cjsmith]

Thank you all for your thoughtful and supportive comments on my "gimp social life" post. Folks made many good points.

- Yes, a scooter would help an awful lot for outings involving movem um, "outings" do tend to involve movement, don't they? I plan to get one as soon as I decide which one is lightest/smallest/easiest-to-transport/reliable/cheap and as soon as I'm pretty sure I'm never going to get better (they're pricey, so I don't want to buy it just to have it for a year). Soon. I'll probably buckle down and get to it soon. I've test-driven several models now.

- Yes, which activities people are doing makes a *big* difference. Anything with the words "explore" or "see" should be planned much more carefully than events with words such as "crafts" or "pot luck". :)

As some of you probably guessed, my main frustration is with myself. If asked to label myself two years and change ago, I would have said: "runner, hiker, camper, backpacker, square dancer, square dance caller, pilot, computer programmer, owned by cats". Scanning down that list will give some idea of how big a shift this is for me. It will take time before I'm comfy in my new life. My thanks for all the words of support.

Comments

Re: 2. other stuff

[moriamerri.livejournal.com]

It sure does suck. I honestly don't know how people manage without becoming bitter and angry.

I thought about these sorts of things a LOT when I was temporarily disabled. Mostly I thought about how freaking HARD it all was and that 6 weeks (or 8 or whatever it was spozed to take) seemed like SUCH an endless timespan. One DAY was an endless timespan. And I thought LOTS AND LOTS about what it would have been like if it was permanent, or unknown. (Mine was very clearly expected to heal in a known time.)

Oh, and now it occurs to me to send you the following text, which sorta touches on this aspect of thinking about things:
This is from the class description for a writing class called "The Ultimate Taboo —Writing about Illness, Pain, and Death" http://www.writingsalons.com/classes/?cat=12

"People think sex is the hardest thing to write about—but if you look around, there are thousands of books about sex. What isn’t written about nearly as much is the body’s experience of illness or dying. “During my mother’s ten year struggle with cancer, I searched for literature that told the truth about suffering but found very little of interest,” says instructor Robin Romm. “It’s not that people don’t write about illness or dying—it’s that there’s not enough honesty and detail in the writing. There’s a way that writers skim the surface, leaving out what’s difficult and true. "

Now it occurs to me that you are a writer, so that may also be an angle from which the above is interesting.

Re: 2. other stuff

[perfect-autumn.livejournal.com]

You're right. There is nothing harder then writing about those things. I do it daily on my real blog, and I find that it's hard for others to read as well. People so often don't know what to say back, can only begin to grasp what it is.

But it's soooo good for the soul. So very good for it.

Re: 2. other stuff

[moriamerri.livejournal.com]

Hello perfect_autumn, I'm VERY sorry it has taken me DAYS to reply to this. As is often the case, it is NOT (just) neglect -- it is because I wanted to go read your blog first, and then there was MORE to think about, and so on. In a way, it seems the opposite of "neglect" but the effect is "neglect". Anyway, sorry about the delay.

You're right. There is nothing harder then writing about those things. Actually I didn't say that, I was quoting someone else who said that (a class description, written by someone who isn't me). But I probably largely agree..... I'd be reluctant to say hardEST -- too many unknowns there for me.

I do it daily on my real blog, and I find that it's hard for others to read as well. People so often don't know what to say back, can only begin to grasp what it is.

Yeah, people sorta don't know what to say about this kinda stuff. Um, socially, that is. But if you can get past the social context part, people have LOTS and LOTS to say. Or that's how I think it works, anyway. I'm not sure if this is just the stuff I read or generally true -- but it looks to me like LJ generally has a lot more "social context" -- as in, it is about people who know each other chatting about daily life type situations -- and blogger tends to be SOMEWHAT (not entirely, but SOMEWHAT) more prone to topic-oriented stuff, where people who do NOT know each other at all are likely to be regular readers.

Finally, are you aware that fibro is thought to be strongly associated with mercury poisoning by many folks? No, I didn't say CAUSED, and I'm not trying to start a fight, I just thought I'd mention it, in case you haven't heard that AND are interested. Feel free to ask me if you want more info (moriam at earthlink.net -- I don't recall if that is available here or not, I'm not REALLY an LJ user, as you can probably tell....)

best regards,
Moria