Maybe you folks have better ideas...

[cjsmith]

What do you do when someone dumps a steaming pile of judgment all over you, still warm from the source?

I haven't yet learned how to not care, and I'm often bad with a quick zinger of a comeback. So what I do is just kinda mope. Not optimal I suppose.

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[cyan-blue.livejournal.com]

I guess it depends on whether I think the judgement's true or false, and whether the person is important in my life.

So - if I'm walking down the street and someone yells "Hey fatso!" then it might sting a bit but I remind myself that it's more about their insecurities than my looks, and focus on the times and ways that I've looked hot and all the other wonderful things there are about me. I know I'm fat; it isn't news, and it isn't a moral failing. It'll hurt a little but I'll work on putting the insult behind me.

This also applies to people who I know are routinely judgemental sorts - if they just tend to judge other often, then I take their words with a large grain of salt and don't give 'em much mind.

If it's a boss or a friend whose opinion of me matters, then it'll bug me more, knowing that all's not right in my world. I'll likely feel down for a while, but will try to talk with them to process the issue (true or false). If it's a friend or co-worker, I may tell them that their manner of delivery bothered me. A boss, I might be more hesitant to address on that depending on how well they took feedback.

Lots of hugs...

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I wish I were that rational about it all! I care too much what others think, whether those others are important to me or not. I often do eventually come around to a "Oh, who cares what that person thinks" frame of mind, if it's someone I'll never see again, but it can take hours or (if it's a bad one) days, and I wish it didn't take me anywhere near that long.