Maybe you folks have better ideas...

[cjsmith]

What do you do when someone dumps a steaming pile of judgment all over you, still warm from the source?

I haven't yet learned how to not care, and I'm often bad with a quick zinger of a comeback. So what I do is just kinda mope. Not optimal I suppose.

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[elflet.livejournal.com]

Usually, I recognize it's projection (taking their stuff and pouring it on me). Or I'll put myself in their shoes emotionally and see if i can imagine where they're coming from. If I can, I'll try to talk to the part that of them that was hurt enough to fire like that.

And sometimes (though I don't say it), I may feel a little sorry for them. After all, if this is what they dump on the people around them, how hard must they be dumping on themselves? Dumping is a habit, after all!

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Usually, I recognize it's projection

Ah, that's a big help. I am slow to see this when something stings.

Dumping is a habit, after all!

True indeed. :-/