social life

[cjsmith]

Here are a few things I notice.

- anyone who's interested in spending time with me becomes less interested once they get to know me
- the people who know me best have the least time to spend with me
- if I stop reaching out and making invitations, I stop seeing anyone (there's one exception here)

What that tells me is either a) I'm going mad, and imagining observable facts, or b) I do not provide value. (Long term, that is. Short term -- people who don't know me yet -- I think people like the tits. But long term, they see what else comes with, and it's no longer a net win.)

I have to learn how to be a net win, how to provide better value for time spent.

Comments

[ambar.livejournal.com]

I've found it quite difficult to persuade people to drive out here (1.5-2 hours from the Bay Area, depending on which part, but it might as well be Boston the way they act. :-) So, other than the housewarming, which was *really* well attended, I think I've thrown 2 parties in the 5 years I've been out here.