social life

[cjsmith]

Here are a few things I notice.

- anyone who's interested in spending time with me becomes less interested once they get to know me
- the people who know me best have the least time to spend with me
- if I stop reaching out and making invitations, I stop seeing anyone (there's one exception here)

What that tells me is either a) I'm going mad, and imagining observable facts, or b) I do not provide value. (Long term, that is. Short term -- people who don't know me yet -- I think people like the tits. But long term, they see what else comes with, and it's no longer a net win.)

I have to learn how to be a net win, how to provide better value for time spent.

Comments

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

I've only seen you once in person, at a bi-coffee in SJ two years ago, and did not notice tits. I'm sure they're there ;-).

You aren't geographically inaccessible to me, at least, but you have seemed a bit reclusive. Local events that I attend aren't ones that you attend, I guess. And I tend to flirt and assess openness at group events before making invitations, even to lunch. To me, it seems to be hard to get to know you.

That said, I'd like to go to a range sometime with you, even to practice with smaller calibers. And anyone with their own airplane... heh. And if you're ever interested in lunch...

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

'Tis true that I don't attend many local events. Yeah. I can imagine seeming hard-to-get-to-know. I'd never thought of that before, though.

Range time sounds cool. Where do you go for same? I'd love to hear more about your survival training.

Er, hate to disillusion you, but I don't own an airplane. I shore do wish I did! [mutter mutter stock price.] But I can sometimes wangle rides for friends in rfrench's plane. (I'm not qualified to fly that one myself.) *dreamy sigh* ah, airplanes!