social life

[cjsmith]

Here are a few things I notice.

- anyone who's interested in spending time with me becomes less interested once they get to know me
- the people who know me best have the least time to spend with me
- if I stop reaching out and making invitations, I stop seeing anyone (there's one exception here)

What that tells me is either a) I'm going mad, and imagining observable facts, or b) I do not provide value. (Long term, that is. Short term -- people who don't know me yet -- I think people like the tits. But long term, they see what else comes with, and it's no longer a net win.)

I have to learn how to be a net win, how to provide better value for time spent.

Comments

[tytso.livejournal.com]

I think I'm re-iterating the same common theme, but I've always enjoyed spending time with you. We share similar interests, and it's always been fun and enjoying to chat with you about many different subjects. The main problem has always been one of geography --- obviously you and Rob should move back to Boston. :-)

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Truth to tell, I've frequently considered moving back to the Boston area. I'm not fond of its traffic, but this area's no better; I'd get a little grumpy about the weather, but here I miss seasons; I'd be closer to my parents for the few remaining years they'll choose to stay in Natick, and I'd be closer to old friends, but I'd be farther from new friends. I think somewhere in the dim recessess of my mind I thought I'd get rich off some startup and buy a jet, and then it wouldn't matter so much... ah, fie on "real life" and its constraints. ;)