I don't think it's necessarily a guy/girl thing. I've cared about someone I was in a relationship a lot more than they care about me. I don't think the imbalance alone would have been enough to have doomed the relationship --- looking back on it now, it was also a lot more about me not being emotionally immature about the whole thing --- but it certainly didn't help.
I've also seen life-long couples (or at least, very long-term couples --- they haven't died yet :-) who seem to equally care for each other very deeply, as well as some long-term couples where they both led fairly independent lives, in spite of sharing a house and (presumably) a bed.
My personal theory is that a certain amount of imbalance is inevitable, since people are so different, and changing from time to time. But if the "give a shit"/emotional dependence/need for the other is too unbalanced, it puts the relationship under a pretty huge amount of strain... Being the person who has been the person who cared much more about the relationship, I can guess what it might be like for you; it's not a pleasant place to be.
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I've also seen life-long couples (or at least, very long-term couples --- they haven't died yet :-) who seem to equally care for each other very deeply, as well as some long-term couples where they both led fairly independent lives, in spite of sharing a house and (presumably) a bed.
My personal theory is that a certain amount of imbalance is inevitable, since people are so different, and changing from time to time. But if the "give a shit"/emotional dependence/need for the other is too unbalanced, it puts the relationship under a pretty huge amount of strain... Being the person who has been the person who cared much more about the relationship, I can guess what it might be like for you; it's not a pleasant place to be.
**Hugs**