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Puzzles: (Mentioned else-LJ, then brought here.)
On Sunday I went through six boxes of mechanical puzzles -- you know, get the ring off the rope, get the chain untangled from the horseshoes, assemble a cube from these fifteen pieces, that kind of thing. I set aside as many of those puzzles for freecycling as I could manage. I think I kept about half, although they're the larger ones; I'm only down to four boxes. I'll do another pass later.
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The hard part of letting go wasn't that I loved each individual puzzle. The hard part was that I loved my image of myself as a person who enjoys puzzles and owns many fun puzzles. It was that self-image I was letting go of as I set aside each puzzle. It's hard to let go of a cherished label I have put on myself.
On the other hand, I find it easy to pick up new labels for myself. Because labels can come with a lot of physical baggage, I guess I've got to learn to let go of the ones I no longer need.
What labels are you holding on to? Do you add new ones easily? Do you let go of old ones easily?
If I had been asked a week ago "What would it take for the label lover-of-puzzles-and-owner-of-many-fun-puzzles to no longer fit you?" I would have said "I'd have to not be me any more." Today I say "Heh, all it took was needing some shelf space." I wonder how many more like that I've got. They can be hard to see.
Decluttering in passes:
Often I can get rid of half of a pile, or perhaps a third of a pile, in an hour. Often it would take me all day to get rid of three-quarters of that same pile. So I'll do the half and let it sit for a few weeks.
I am currently due for new passes on jigsaw puzzles, clothing, old techie books, and believe it or not, shoes. (Hey, those can be hard to let go of. It took me fifteen years to find hiking boots that fit. If a miracle occurs, I don't want to spend another fifteen years in bad boots.)
On Sunday I went through six boxes of mechanical puzzles -- you know, get the ring off the rope, get the chain untangled from the horseshoes, assemble a cube from these fifteen pieces, that kind of thing. I set aside as many of those puzzles for freecycling as I could manage. I think I kept about half, although they're the larger ones; I'm only down to four boxes. I'll do another pass later.
Labels:
The hard part of letting go wasn't that I loved each individual puzzle. The hard part was that I loved my image of myself as a person who enjoys puzzles and owns many fun puzzles. It was that self-image I was letting go of as I set aside each puzzle. It's hard to let go of a cherished label I have put on myself.
On the other hand, I find it easy to pick up new labels for myself. Because labels can come with a lot of physical baggage, I guess I've got to learn to let go of the ones I no longer need.
What labels are you holding on to? Do you add new ones easily? Do you let go of old ones easily?
If I had been asked a week ago "What would it take for the label lover-of-puzzles-and-owner-of-many-fun-puzzles to no longer fit you?" I would have said "I'd have to not be me any more." Today I say "Heh, all it took was needing some shelf space." I wonder how many more like that I've got. They can be hard to see.
Decluttering in passes:
Often I can get rid of half of a pile, or perhaps a third of a pile, in an hour. Often it would take me all day to get rid of three-quarters of that same pile. So I'll do the half and let it sit for a few weeks.
I am currently due for new passes on jigsaw puzzles, clothing, old techie books, and believe it or not, shoes. (Hey, those can be hard to let go of. It took me fifteen years to find hiking boots that fit. If a miracle occurs, I don't want to spend another fifteen years in bad boots.)
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I can at least justify the music and instrument collection as something I'm doing something with (tho to be fair I play the harp about once a year, the piano is dreadfully out of tune, I still havent sat down long enough with the shakuhachi to get a reasonable sound out of it and the cornetto is now out on loan because even after fighting with it for 6 months it still sounds like I'm strangling a duck when I try to play it)...
But I definitely do seem to have the collector gene.
On the other hand, I dont think that one has to absolutely have an immediate use for everything one owns. And I do periodically pick up a piece of needlework or wear a piece of jewelry that I havent looked at in forever. It's kind of fun to rediscover things every now and then. (Oh yeah, so-and-so gave me that, what a nice memory (I've gotten rid of the things with not-so-nice memories attached)).
What I really need is someone to come over, watch me try on every piece of clothing I own, and make me get rid of everything that doesnt work.
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I don't. That's why the ones I know I'm not going to read again (due to obsolescence, changing interests (I've been called by a friend "the man who collects hobbies"), whatever) go somewhere like Half Price Books, where they can at least get me a bit of remuneration and someone else a chance to get his/her hands on them.
I find that I do fight the pack rat gene - I have it from both parents. It's easier for me to part with things if I am going through them in the presence of someone else. If I'm alone, I'll second guess myself and start thinking about some sentimental value or something that will cause me to try to hang onto more of the stuff.
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I find it's even difficult for me to throw out the little tag-ends of fabric that are left over when I've cut all the pattern pieces out. I'll have a piece that's maybe ten square inches, in a really awkward shape, and I'll think "But it maaaaatches. It might be uuuuuuseful". *snort* THAT I could improve on!
I'm very fortunate to have freecycle in my area. People will drop by to pick up an amazing variety of useless objects if they're free. I can't bear to part with fabric, but I have parted with books.
I agree with you about not requiring an immediate use for things, even things kept for their usefulness rather than for sentiment or for beauty. (Witness my hiking boots. I haven't hiked since I was 35!) On the other hand, space is money, and carrying less of a load does have benefits, so there's a balance there somewhere. I am currently on the "too burdened down" side of that scale.
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And that last little bit of fabric is perfect for a patchwork quilt. I tend not to throw out any fabric that is over 4 inches on a side. Sometime I'm going to do a patchwork quilt that is a rainbow of colors shading from one to the next across the whole quilt. And that'll use all those last little bits. Since I tend to make blouses out of quilters cotton anyway (I like the designs better than what you can find in clothing fabrics) what I have will actually work well for that kind of quilt.
I was thinking recently that a good rule for buying clothing might be that for every item I buy, I have to discard something else from my closet. Seems it would make me 1. think more about each thing I buy and 2. end up with a wardrobe of only the things I really like.
I may have to try that. Not willing to do that with the jewelry habit tho.
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My hope has been that my discarding a little clothing on a regular basis, I will get used to the idea of evaluating the usefulness of things. Not sure if this is true, but it's a hope. Other areas where I do pretty well: food containers (tupperware, water bottles etc); dishes, pots, kitchen implements.
Not buying things: For a long time I've had a rule against buying bars of soap. I don't use them, I use liquid soap. But I am attracted to all the pretty and yummy-smelling soaps. The rule was originally that I could not buy bar soap until using up the bar soap currently on hand -- however, since I never use any up, this is pretty much a general ban. I used to have a similar rule about pens, I think. (I've used up the backlog). The really scary one is that I stopped renewing magazine subscriptions. (This is a BIG problem area). I'm ready to renew some again -- not that I've handled the backlog though.