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Remember my foot problems?
I have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It's a full-on stand-up-a-bunch Catholic mass for a very, very devout couple. I will be dressed nicely (hisssss) which means GIRL SHOES (double hisssssssss).
My orthotics don't fit in girl shoes. I can't stand for more than a couple minutes without them before I'm in a fair bit of pain, and you would probably laugh to see me try to walk. I can, it's just that it's pathetic. And that's *barefoot* -- never mind the immense stupidity of elevating the heel and putting any weight on the ball of the foot. Yet I simply do not have any shoes that are Societally Acceptable(tm) that would be healthy for my feet. Frankly, I don't think there ARE such things. Not for GIRLS (hissssss).
If I wear girl shoes the inflammation will probably be back down to today's levels by next Wednesday, maybe a little longer depending on how much standing I do. Friday at the worst, I'd guess.
So - A POLL! What should I do? Please, people familiar with Catholic Mass, tell me. What's disrespectful, what's rude, what's acceptable and what's not? In case it makes a difference, I'll note here that I am not and have never been Catholic, and that I know exactly two people at this entire thing:![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
rfrench and the bride. Oh, and that I have no wedding-appropriate clothing that goes even remotely reasonably well with black shoes.
[LJ-CUT TEXT="But you don't look sick"]
[Poll #470999]
Oh, I forgot to add options for "Get the @#$! over yourself, it's no big deal." Feel free to write that in. :-)
I have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It's a full-on stand-up-a-bunch Catholic mass for a very, very devout couple. I will be dressed nicely (hisssss) which means GIRL SHOES (double hisssssssss).
My orthotics don't fit in girl shoes. I can't stand for more than a couple minutes without them before I'm in a fair bit of pain, and you would probably laugh to see me try to walk. I can, it's just that it's pathetic. And that's *barefoot* -- never mind the immense stupidity of elevating the heel and putting any weight on the ball of the foot. Yet I simply do not have any shoes that are Societally Acceptable(tm) that would be healthy for my feet. Frankly, I don't think there ARE such things. Not for GIRLS (hissssss).
If I wear girl shoes the inflammation will probably be back down to today's levels by next Wednesday, maybe a little longer depending on how much standing I do. Friday at the worst, I'd guess.
So - A POLL! What should I do? Please, people familiar with Catholic Mass, tell me. What's disrespectful, what's rude, what's acceptable and what's not? In case it makes a difference, I'll note here that I am not and have never been Catholic, and that I know exactly two people at this entire thing:
rfrench and the bride. Oh, and that I have no wedding-appropriate clothing that goes even remotely reasonably well with black shoes.[LJ-CUT TEXT="But you don't look sick"]
[Poll #470999]
Oh, I forgot to add options for "Get the @#$! over yourself, it's no big deal." Feel free to write that in. :-)
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In a Christian or Jewish place of worship, you should not be required to sit, stand, kneel, or do any physical motions that would cause you pain.
If anyone tells you differently ... take care of yourself by leaving.
You might also want to call the bride and explain your current disability (and don't shirk from calling it a physical disability!), and let her know of your physical limitations.
I am absolutely certain that any bride who's worthy of being a friend of yours will understand instantly and not be offended. If she's offended, then don't go. (And don't send a gift.)