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Remember my foot problems?
I have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It's a full-on stand-up-a-bunch Catholic mass for a very, very devout couple. I will be dressed nicely (hisssss) which means GIRL SHOES (double hisssssssss).
My orthotics don't fit in girl shoes. I can't stand for more than a couple minutes without them before I'm in a fair bit of pain, and you would probably laugh to see me try to walk. I can, it's just that it's pathetic. And that's *barefoot* -- never mind the immense stupidity of elevating the heel and putting any weight on the ball of the foot. Yet I simply do not have any shoes that are Societally Acceptable(tm) that would be healthy for my feet. Frankly, I don't think there ARE such things. Not for GIRLS (hissssss).
If I wear girl shoes the inflammation will probably be back down to today's levels by next Wednesday, maybe a little longer depending on how much standing I do. Friday at the worst, I'd guess.
So - A POLL! What should I do? Please, people familiar with Catholic Mass, tell me. What's disrespectful, what's rude, what's acceptable and what's not? In case it makes a difference, I'll note here that I am not and have never been Catholic, and that I know exactly two people at this entire thing:![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
rfrench and the bride. Oh, and that I have no wedding-appropriate clothing that goes even remotely reasonably well with black shoes.
[LJ-CUT TEXT="But you don't look sick"]
[Poll #470999]
Oh, I forgot to add options for "Get the @#$! over yourself, it's no big deal." Feel free to write that in. :-)
I have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It's a full-on stand-up-a-bunch Catholic mass for a very, very devout couple. I will be dressed nicely (hisssss) which means GIRL SHOES (double hisssssssss).
My orthotics don't fit in girl shoes. I can't stand for more than a couple minutes without them before I'm in a fair bit of pain, and you would probably laugh to see me try to walk. I can, it's just that it's pathetic. And that's *barefoot* -- never mind the immense stupidity of elevating the heel and putting any weight on the ball of the foot. Yet I simply do not have any shoes that are Societally Acceptable(tm) that would be healthy for my feet. Frankly, I don't think there ARE such things. Not for GIRLS (hissssss).
If I wear girl shoes the inflammation will probably be back down to today's levels by next Wednesday, maybe a little longer depending on how much standing I do. Friday at the worst, I'd guess.
So - A POLL! What should I do? Please, people familiar with Catholic Mass, tell me. What's disrespectful, what's rude, what's acceptable and what's not? In case it makes a difference, I'll note here that I am not and have never been Catholic, and that I know exactly two people at this entire thing:
rfrench and the bride. Oh, and that I have no wedding-appropriate clothing that goes even remotely reasonably well with black shoes.[LJ-CUT TEXT="But you don't look sick"]
[Poll #470999]
Oh, I forgot to add options for "Get the @#$! over yourself, it's no big deal." Feel free to write that in. :-)
girl shoes
For interviews or an office job where I needed shoes that would look "nice" & yet be able to hold my orthotics, I purchased a pair of Josef Seibel Tia (http://www.footwearetc.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Product_Code=155-87005)s. The velcro flap holds the top of my foot in place & with thin socks (and the original insole removed) there's just enough space for my orthotic & my foot. The angle of the incline of the Tia's footbed was also just right for me not to put pressure on my arthritic big toe joint. I'd tried another shoe that had the same sole on it, but with laces, and for some reason the way it was constructed changed the angle of the footbed just enough that it made it uncomfortable. (This surprised the knowledgeable Footwear Etc. (http://www.footwearetc.com/) salesman who was helping me because most people would not notice such a subtle change.)
I also bought a pair of black BeautiFeel Bella (http://www.footwearetc.com/Merchant2/merchant.mvc?Screen=PROD&Product_Code=706)s for shoes with a small heel for more formal occasions -- but for that one, my custom-cast prescription orthotic is much too thick to fit. Instead, I have a 3/4 dress-shoe (over-the-counter) plastic insole in it which gives me some arch support but does nothing for the ball of my foot where the toe joint gives me trouble. I have found my pain-free standing time to be limited when when wearing these shoes.
As for the wedding if you don't have girl shoes that fit your orthotic. I'm not Catholic, but if it were me, I'd rather you be comfortable -- whether that means wearing your regular shoes or sitting or both.
Good luck!
-- Shadopanther