Etiquette questions for any Catholics out there

[cjsmith]

Remember my foot problems?

I have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It's a full-on stand-up-a-bunch Catholic mass for a very, very devout couple. I will be dressed nicely (hisssss) which means GIRL SHOES (double hisssssssss).

My orthotics don't fit in girl shoes. I can't stand for more than a couple minutes without them before I'm in a fair bit of pain, and you would probably laugh to see me try to walk. I can, it's just that it's pathetic. And that's *barefoot* -- never mind the immense stupidity of elevating the heel and putting any weight on the ball of the foot. Yet I simply do not have any shoes that are Societally Acceptable(tm) that would be healthy for my feet. Frankly, I don't think there ARE such things. Not for GIRLS (hissssss).

If I wear girl shoes the inflammation will probably be back down to today's levels by next Wednesday, maybe a little longer depending on how much standing I do. Friday at the worst, I'd guess.

So - A POLL! What should I do? Please, people familiar with Catholic Mass, tell me. What's disrespectful, what's rude, what's acceptable and what's not? In case it makes a difference, I'll note here that I am not and have never been Catholic, and that I know exactly two people at this entire thing: rfrench and the bride. Oh, and that I have no wedding-appropriate clothing that goes even remotely reasonably well with black shoes.

[LJ-CUT TEXT="But you don't look sick"]

[Poll #470999]


Oh, I forgot to add options for "Get the @#$! over yourself, it's no big deal." Feel free to write that in. :-)

Comments

[jupiter29.livejournal.com]

Everybody's different, of course. But for me a wedding is about celebrating love and commitment, not following every tradition of the church. Heck, even if you were going to Sunday mass, I would say feel free not to stand if it hurts, and that goes doubly for a wedding. You are there to support the bride, and that is all. So I see be comfortable, whether than means wearing safe shoes or not standing, whatever you can live with. If you want to explain to the bride at some point, fine, although I'd only do it after the ceremony. Last thing she needs to be thinking about before or during the wedding is how uncomfortable her friend will be every time people stand up. :)

As for the reception, I say get out of those shoes and into something you can wear comfortable as soon as possible. I can all but guarantee the wedding party and many of the female guests will be out of their heals as soon as it comes time to dance anyway.

[just-cyd.livejournal.com]

I can all but guarantee the wedding party and many of the female guests will be out of their heals as soon as it comes time to dance anyway.

*nods*
my one and only stint as a bridesmaid had me in one-size-too-small shoes with 2" heels. those babies came off the *second* the official stuff was over, and i never wore them again.

*shudders at the crimes committed against women's feet*