Etiquette questions for any Catholics out there

[cjsmith]

Remember my foot problems?

I have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It's a full-on stand-up-a-bunch Catholic mass for a very, very devout couple. I will be dressed nicely (hisssss) which means GIRL SHOES (double hisssssssss).

My orthotics don't fit in girl shoes. I can't stand for more than a couple minutes without them before I'm in a fair bit of pain, and you would probably laugh to see me try to walk. I can, it's just that it's pathetic. And that's *barefoot* -- never mind the immense stupidity of elevating the heel and putting any weight on the ball of the foot. Yet I simply do not have any shoes that are Societally Acceptable(tm) that would be healthy for my feet. Frankly, I don't think there ARE such things. Not for GIRLS (hissssss).

If I wear girl shoes the inflammation will probably be back down to today's levels by next Wednesday, maybe a little longer depending on how much standing I do. Friday at the worst, I'd guess.

So - A POLL! What should I do? Please, people familiar with Catholic Mass, tell me. What's disrespectful, what's rude, what's acceptable and what's not? In case it makes a difference, I'll note here that I am not and have never been Catholic, and that I know exactly two people at this entire thing: rfrench and the bride. Oh, and that I have no wedding-appropriate clothing that goes even remotely reasonably well with black shoes.

[LJ-CUT TEXT="But you don't look sick"]

[Poll #470999]


Oh, I forgot to add options for "Get the @#$! over yourself, it's no big deal." Feel free to write that in. :-)

Comments

[vito-excalibur.livejournal.com]

What everybody said. No one's going to want you to cripple yourself for fashion. And, no offense, but in the relative order of points of importance of the day, the shoes of a not closely-related guest fall very, very low to anyone but said guest.

[apparentparadox]

I thought that crippling yourself for fashion was what most of women's fashion was about (but, hey, I'm a gay man, what do I know).

But, seriously, I agree with genderfur and just be respectful. I would suggest that you try to get a seat on the aisle (I know, hard to do, but sit near the back) so that when others are standing, you can look down the aisle & see something other than backs.

[vito-excalibur.livejournal.com]

Dude, this is why I didn't go to women's fashion's wedding. Fuck her.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Ayep -- "get over myself". (I do recognize that people are there for the bride and groom, not for CJ's shoes!) Excellent. Thanks!