Etiquette questions for any Catholics out there

[cjsmith]

Remember my foot problems?

I have a wedding to attend tomorrow. It's a full-on stand-up-a-bunch Catholic mass for a very, very devout couple. I will be dressed nicely (hisssss) which means GIRL SHOES (double hisssssssss).

My orthotics don't fit in girl shoes. I can't stand for more than a couple minutes without them before I'm in a fair bit of pain, and you would probably laugh to see me try to walk. I can, it's just that it's pathetic. And that's *barefoot* -- never mind the immense stupidity of elevating the heel and putting any weight on the ball of the foot. Yet I simply do not have any shoes that are Societally Acceptable(tm) that would be healthy for my feet. Frankly, I don't think there ARE such things. Not for GIRLS (hissssss).

If I wear girl shoes the inflammation will probably be back down to today's levels by next Wednesday, maybe a little longer depending on how much standing I do. Friday at the worst, I'd guess.

So - A POLL! What should I do? Please, people familiar with Catholic Mass, tell me. What's disrespectful, what's rude, what's acceptable and what's not? In case it makes a difference, I'll note here that I am not and have never been Catholic, and that I know exactly two people at this entire thing: rfrench and the bride. Oh, and that I have no wedding-appropriate clothing that goes even remotely reasonably well with black shoes.

[LJ-CUT TEXT="But you don't look sick"]

[Poll #470999]


Oh, I forgot to add options for "Get the @#$! over yourself, it's no big deal." Feel free to write that in. :-)

Comments

[ericainohio.livejournal.com]

It's OK if you have to sit. No one is going to throw you out. If you are concerned about what others will think, go ahead and borrow a cane. But really, it's not necessary.

I was going to suggest that you pick one really crucial part of Mass during which to stand - but ya know what? You're not Catholic. And it's nobody's business why you aren't standing anyway.

The priest and any Catholic attendees will understand that not everyone at the wedding is Catholic. It's OK.

[hitchhiker.livejournal.com]

Just so. Actually, sitting is fairly inconspicuous, insofar as there are usually at least one or two people in church who are physically unable to cope with all that sitting and standing. (The cane's a brilliant idea, btw. Not in the sense that you ought to do it, just that the idea was very elegant.)