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Anniversary thoughts
Today it has been ten years since ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
rfrench and I stood in our living room and promised to stay together for life. At that time we had been together seven years, minus a coupla months.
His proposal was vastly romantic. "If the tax consequences wouldn't be so terrible, I'd ask you to marry me." My reply was equally sappy. "If the tax consequences wouldn't be so terrible, I'd say yes."
So we scrabbled together some vows, and with no witnesses at all, we looked into each others' eyes and spoke. It suited us.
We didn't know it then, but we'd already been through most of the tough stuff we would see for quite a while. Most. We were about to go into a rocky patch that might have separated us had we not promised to try really, really, really hard. It's odd, now, thinking that I'll never be sure whether the timing of those simple words changed the outcome.
A few days later we went to the mall and bought rings. We're not legally wed, but hey, I don't invite the government to my parties, either. The only somewhat-unpleasant side effect of this we've seen is that neither set of parents thinks this relationship is all that serious.
I just asked him to glance over this LiveJournal entry and he nodded. :-) Life is calm, and I'll take calm.
rfrench and I stood in our living room and promised to stay together for life. At that time we had been together seven years, minus a coupla months.His proposal was vastly romantic. "If the tax consequences wouldn't be so terrible, I'd ask you to marry me." My reply was equally sappy. "If the tax consequences wouldn't be so terrible, I'd say yes."
So we scrabbled together some vows, and with no witnesses at all, we looked into each others' eyes and spoke. It suited us.
We didn't know it then, but we'd already been through most of the tough stuff we would see for quite a while. Most. We were about to go into a rocky patch that might have separated us had we not promised to try really, really, really hard. It's odd, now, thinking that I'll never be sure whether the timing of those simple words changed the outcome.
A few days later we went to the mall and bought rings. We're not legally wed, but hey, I don't invite the government to my parties, either. The only somewhat-unpleasant side effect of this we've seen is that neither set of parents thinks this relationship is all that serious.
I just asked him to glance over this LiveJournal entry and he nodded. :-) Life is calm, and I'll take calm.
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[sniff]
That's so romantic. I want a mate like that.
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And congratulations!
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-- Shadopanther
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I can't imagine marriage changing our commitment. Fortunately, both of our families agree with us.
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Oh, absolutely.
Your families are way cooler than ours. :)
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Thank you!
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But seriously, I've been looking at Limited Liability Parnterships for those of us who think the marriage laws suck. It makes a lot of sense if there are more than two in the relationship and there are children involved. But for a childless couple it may, or may not? If you have no legal agreements now, you may want to talk to a lawyer, incase, yanno, something happens to one of you?
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I hope the Republican treats your sister well and they care for each other. If not, I hope she runs like a cheetah.
Yeah, we have no legal agreements now. The most we'd want at the moment is medical power of attorney and living will. We might consider legal marriage (or LLP if our research found some real dung in the local laws) if we were protecting the future of a child, but, well, some things aren't gonna happen. :)
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that is a good thing to have in life. :)
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most excellent
I need to find a similar partner.
ok, not need. would like to.
oohhhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...
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There are times when I forget that this is good. I suspect everyone has moments like that. But, well, I'm grateful...
Congratulations to both of you :-)
...and when I say "appreciate" I mean "understand and admire". It's not as if I thought you guys were doing it all for *me*...
No, really.
Re: Congratulations to both of you :-)
If most divorces happen in the first ten, we're over one hump, I guess. (I think another one shows up when the kids become teenagers, but if that's causation rather than correlation we may not notice that time period.)
I appreciate your effort and commitment.
Thanks. This means a bunch coming from you. I admire what you and K do.
It's not as if I thought you guys were doing it all for *me*...
Oh yes, we're doing it ALL for YOU. Even the fifteen, um fourteen, um, I mean some largish number of, yeah that's it, years before we met you. :-)
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This is pretty much what David and I have too!
Susan
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Susan
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