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1. When did you first know that you weren't (completely) straight? Have you always identified as bisexual?
2. (First the set-up) You've talked before about how unfair it is to be a woman in today's world. If you had the power to transform yourself into a man, would you? Why or why not?
3. What's YOUR favorite wine and what would you eat with it? (Yes, I really do want to know -- I'm *not* running out of questions!)
4. What's it like being married to a wealthy man? If you could, would you: a) make yourself as wealthy as he; b) take away his wealth so you and he would be on more equal financial ground; or c) leave things as they are? Why?
5. Unemployment: "valuable time for rediscovery and personal growth" or "not everything it's cracked up to be"? Why?
Bonus question:): What do you think these days about having children?
1. When did you first know that you weren't (completely) straight? Have you always identified as bisexual?
I first began to identify as bisexual when I was in college. I hung out with a few gay male friends and started to question my own sexuality. (Looking back now, I would bet MIT's large male to female ratio had something to do with both of these -- hanging out with gay men must have been a relief, and questioning my own sexuality was very sane given what my hetero options seemed to be! Still, I didn't think that way then.) I met a few gals who were bi, went to womens' night at gay bars, marched in some rally or other, and just generally enjoyed the heck out of the culture. There was one feisty adorable Russian woman who slow-danced with me and I said, okay, yes, I'm bi. Wish I had been so sure at the BEGINNING of that evening. She and I would both have had a more memorable experience. ;-)
2. (First the set-up) You've talked before about how unfair it is to be a woman in today's world. If you had the power to transform yourself into a man, would you? Why or why not?
I think I would -- if I could have ALL of it: functional genitalia, being a Dad, the emotional and psychological benefits of having been raised with all those subtle things boys so often seem to get raised with, no menstrual pain, upper body strength, all that stuff. There would be losses, huge losses. I'd lose Rob as a romantic partner. I'd lose who I am, because so much of who I am is predicated on being The Girl in a group of guys and just basically on being prey. But I would be happier, overall, because it would fit me better.
Of course, if I had that power, maybe I'd have the power to go back and forth. If so, I'd do that. I'd be a man when at work and at most of my hobbies, a woman when with Rob, and back and forth at random other times just to (say) holler for a taxi or something. If I could go back and forth really fast, I could have an amaaaaazing time all by myself in the bedroom.
3. What's YOUR favorite wine and what would you eat with it? (Yes, I really do want to know -- I'm *not* running out of questions!)
My current favorite is, you're gonna kill me, a sweet fruity white: Sterling Vineyards' Malvasia Bianca. I would eat SUPER FIERY CORROSIVELY SPICY food with it, because I CAN. It can handle that.
Next favorite is probably Robert Mondavi Coastal Pinot Noir. (Odd, that, 'cause I have little use for most Mondavi wines.) My favorite meal with that is nothing at all. Ruins the taste, food does. But if I hadda pick, medallions of lamb and some kind of Afghani rice. Mmm, pinot noir with lamb.
4. What's it like being married to a wealthy man? If you could, would you: a) make yourself as wealthy as he; b) take away his wealth so you and he would be on more equal financial ground; or c) leave things as they are? Why?
It's like being married to the same man when he was dirt poor, except he doesn't use my car all the effing time, he has his own now. :-) Seriously, he's not that wealthy. He was once, on paper. But then, so was I. :-) He's wealthier than I am. I would probably pick a) because hell, why not. I would be able to do more. All my friends would have paid journals forever, I'd visit you and Lisa and Cyd a couple times, I'd buy a whole freakin wardrobe for Widad to replace the one she lost, I'd... there are a few local things I can think of and I won't get more specific here. Everything. I'd go nuts. Well, okay, this list alone probably made me run out of extra money, but that's okay... really, I'm all right with what I have now.
5. Unemployment: "valuable time for rediscovery and personal growth" or "not everything it's cracked up to be"? Why?
Yes. :-) It is indeed valuable time for rediscovery and personal growth, but I'm not rediscovering or growing nearly as fast as I'd like to be. I have whole days wherein I can do ANYTHING I WANT... except be on a team attacking a really intriguing software bug, and I do miss that. I am just so relaxed, though! That alone is wonderful. And I've discovered (or grown?) a few good cookie recipes lately! :-)
[EDIT: Forgot this one!]
Bonus question:): What do you think these days about having children?
I'm a lot more settled-feeling about it all. I would still love to be a Dad if I could but I am just not cut out for Mom. I would consider adopting. I doubt it's going to happen; Rob doesn't want to raise children. But ever since my teens I have felt that if I raised any child it would probably be an adopted child, and I think that's still the right answer for me. At this moment in time I'm comfortable contemplating either future - "adopt someday" or "never".
2. (First the set-up) You've talked before about how unfair it is to be a woman in today's world. If you had the power to transform yourself into a man, would you? Why or why not?
3. What's YOUR favorite wine and what would you eat with it? (Yes, I really do want to know -- I'm *not* running out of questions!)
4. What's it like being married to a wealthy man? If you could, would you: a) make yourself as wealthy as he; b) take away his wealth so you and he would be on more equal financial ground; or c) leave things as they are? Why?
5. Unemployment: "valuable time for rediscovery and personal growth" or "not everything it's cracked up to be"? Why?
Bonus question:): What do you think these days about having children?
1. When did you first know that you weren't (completely) straight? Have you always identified as bisexual?
I first began to identify as bisexual when I was in college. I hung out with a few gay male friends and started to question my own sexuality. (Looking back now, I would bet MIT's large male to female ratio had something to do with both of these -- hanging out with gay men must have been a relief, and questioning my own sexuality was very sane given what my hetero options seemed to be! Still, I didn't think that way then.) I met a few gals who were bi, went to womens' night at gay bars, marched in some rally or other, and just generally enjoyed the heck out of the culture. There was one feisty adorable Russian woman who slow-danced with me and I said, okay, yes, I'm bi. Wish I had been so sure at the BEGINNING of that evening. She and I would both have had a more memorable experience. ;-)
2. (First the set-up) You've talked before about how unfair it is to be a woman in today's world. If you had the power to transform yourself into a man, would you? Why or why not?
I think I would -- if I could have ALL of it: functional genitalia, being a Dad, the emotional and psychological benefits of having been raised with all those subtle things boys so often seem to get raised with, no menstrual pain, upper body strength, all that stuff. There would be losses, huge losses. I'd lose Rob as a romantic partner. I'd lose who I am, because so much of who I am is predicated on being The Girl in a group of guys and just basically on being prey. But I would be happier, overall, because it would fit me better.
Of course, if I had that power, maybe I'd have the power to go back and forth. If so, I'd do that. I'd be a man when at work and at most of my hobbies, a woman when with Rob, and back and forth at random other times just to (say) holler for a taxi or something. If I could go back and forth really fast, I could have an amaaaaazing time all by myself in the bedroom.
3. What's YOUR favorite wine and what would you eat with it? (Yes, I really do want to know -- I'm *not* running out of questions!)
My current favorite is, you're gonna kill me, a sweet fruity white: Sterling Vineyards' Malvasia Bianca. I would eat SUPER FIERY CORROSIVELY SPICY food with it, because I CAN. It can handle that.
Next favorite is probably Robert Mondavi Coastal Pinot Noir. (Odd, that, 'cause I have little use for most Mondavi wines.) My favorite meal with that is nothing at all. Ruins the taste, food does. But if I hadda pick, medallions of lamb and some kind of Afghani rice. Mmm, pinot noir with lamb.
4. What's it like being married to a wealthy man? If you could, would you: a) make yourself as wealthy as he; b) take away his wealth so you and he would be on more equal financial ground; or c) leave things as they are? Why?
It's like being married to the same man when he was dirt poor, except he doesn't use my car all the effing time, he has his own now. :-) Seriously, he's not that wealthy. He was once, on paper. But then, so was I. :-) He's wealthier than I am. I would probably pick a) because hell, why not. I would be able to do more. All my friends would have paid journals forever, I'd visit you and Lisa and Cyd a couple times, I'd buy a whole freakin wardrobe for Widad to replace the one she lost, I'd... there are a few local things I can think of and I won't get more specific here. Everything. I'd go nuts. Well, okay, this list alone probably made me run out of extra money, but that's okay... really, I'm all right with what I have now.
5. Unemployment: "valuable time for rediscovery and personal growth" or "not everything it's cracked up to be"? Why?
Yes. :-) It is indeed valuable time for rediscovery and personal growth, but I'm not rediscovering or growing nearly as fast as I'd like to be. I have whole days wherein I can do ANYTHING I WANT... except be on a team attacking a really intriguing software bug, and I do miss that. I am just so relaxed, though! That alone is wonderful. And I've discovered (or grown?) a few good cookie recipes lately! :-)
[EDIT: Forgot this one!]
Bonus question:): What do you think these days about having children?
I'm a lot more settled-feeling about it all. I would still love to be a Dad if I could but I am just not cut out for Mom. I would consider adopting. I doubt it's going to happen; Rob doesn't want to raise children. But ever since my teens I have felt that if I raised any child it would probably be an adopted child, and I think that's still the right answer for me. At this moment in time I'm comfortable contemplating either future - "adopt someday" or "never".
