I stopped feeling like I had to put on an act and could just be me
That's it, that's exactly what I'm looking for. I think five years ago I wouldn't even have been able to see that what I was doing was, in fact, "putting on an act". I felt like I just wasn't telling everybody my life story all the time, that's all. Ha! No, in retrospect, that's not all. Not by a long shot. :-)
I had a few friends who totally destroyed my faith in them by constantly lying to me.
Ick. I've never, thank goodness, had that experience.
I've had some friends who have destroyed my faith in them by constantly lying to THEMSELVES. When they say something to me, it really is the truth as they know it, or more precisely, it's the truth as they fervently hope and wish it to be. Denial is a powerful thing. The upshot, though, is that I can't trust what I hear from such a person.
I've also had people destroy my faith in them by repeatedly failing to keep their word. There's no deliberate deception - when the word was given it was believed - but the track record and the results show I can't believe what I hear from such a person.
I've also had people destroy my faith in them by taking actions that are in direct conflict with their word. Often such a person will then blame me for not believing what he says.
These three are some of the big reasons why, if I were searching for a life partner, "self-awareness" would be very high on my list of criteria.
Getting to self acceptance is a long hard road. Sounds like you're progressing in the journey :-)
Thanks! I'm working on it. Probably the best gift I can give myself... and one of the better gifts I might be able to give to those close to me, too.
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That's it, that's exactly what I'm looking for. I think five years ago I wouldn't even have been able to see that what I was doing was, in fact, "putting on an act". I felt like I just wasn't telling everybody my life story all the time, that's all. Ha! No, in retrospect, that's not all. Not by a long shot. :-)
I had a few friends who totally destroyed my faith in them by constantly lying to me.
Ick. I've never, thank goodness, had that experience.
I've had some friends who have destroyed my faith in them by constantly lying to THEMSELVES. When they say something to me, it really is the truth as they know it, or more precisely, it's the truth as they fervently hope and wish it to be. Denial is a powerful thing. The upshot, though, is that I can't trust what I hear from such a person.
I've also had people destroy my faith in them by repeatedly failing to keep their word. There's no deliberate deception - when the word was given it was believed - but the track record and the results show I can't believe what I hear from such a person.
I've also had people destroy my faith in them by taking actions that are in direct conflict with their word. Often such a person will then blame me for not believing what he says.
These three are some of the big reasons why, if I were searching for a life partner, "self-awareness" would be very high on my list of criteria.
Getting to self acceptance is a long hard road. Sounds like you're progressing in the journey :-)
Thanks! I'm working on it. Probably the best gift I can give myself... and one of the better gifts I might be able to give to those close to me, too.