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[cjsmith]

This Twitter post, and the replies, hit me hard this morning.

https://twitter.com/EmmettComix/status/1458534462522859526?s=20

I have never seen this side of cis masculinity. (Affirmation and inclusion are not stereotypically offered by cis dudes to persons who look like me, no matter the topic.)

I am realizing that if a friend is someone who would be supportive and welcoming about something that's that deeply important to me, then I currently have zero cis dude friends among the people I hang out with.

Knowing why doesn’t make it sting less.

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[cjsmith]

Excellent!

Not to say that all straight people are Bad or all queer people are Good. But queer people are at least fighting some of the bs that society programs us with, and that helps.

[firecat]

Partly it’s that. And partly there’s a self-fulfilling prophecy — I assume straight cis (white) men aren’t going to be interested in me as a person. Some have been, so I know it’s a prejudice of mine and I’m not proud of that. But not doing a lot to dismantle it either. I have other prejudices that need to be worked on first!

[It’s interesting to try to figure out which category my late partner fell into. He id’d as straight and cis but was a lot more queer oriented and gender nonconforming than most straight, cis men, and he could be affirmative, too.]

[cjsmith]

Yeah, some prejudices are so strongly rooted in statistical likelihood (and are also not made massively harmful by related power imbalances) that they get deprioritized.

I was wondering about him, yeah. I did perceive him to be less gender conforming than most cis het dudes.