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This Twitter post, and the replies, hit me hard this morning.

https://twitter.com/EmmettComix/status/1458534462522859526?s=20

I have never seen this side of cis masculinity. (Affirmation and inclusion are not stereotypically offered by cis dudes to persons who look like me, no matter the topic.)

I am realizing that if a friend is someone who would be supportive and welcoming about something that's that deeply important to me, then I currently have zero cis dude friends among the people I hang out with.

Knowing why doesn’t make it sting less.

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Ow. I am sorry.

i am so sorry that that's your experience. i've been luckier than you and i'm trying to think why that is and i think that part of it is that almost all my cis dude friends who are helpful and affirming and inclusive are approx 15 years or more younger than i am. which gives me hope for the next generation but yeah, cis dudes around my own age expect me to be a totally different type of person and will frequently let me know that :( .

:-/

I'm so sorry you don't have that.

Oh man... *wince*

That sucks, dude.

I mean, my relationship with that sort of cis masculinity is also pretty complicated, in that that sort of thing is not really a language I know how to speak, so I don't know that I could be usefully supportive in that way, but I would like to hang out with you more. Perhaps we could take a welding class together or something, when the world is less plagued?

Also I recently saw a talk about "being trans without physical transformation", that unfortunately seems to have stuck in my head rather less than I expected it to, but I remember mention of a trans man somewhere around our age who had a body of a certain shape and was part of a motorcycle group with black leather jacket etc. and they just affirmed him as "one of the guys". And I don't have enough recollection of context (I mostly just remember the photo) to do anything useful with this such as point to things he's written or anything, but the image seems relevant.

This got me thinking about the demographics of ppl I hang out with currently. One of them is a cis (queer) dude. Everyone else in my inner circle is trans or a cis woman.

Thanks for showcasing such nice attempts!

The tangle of hierarchical aggression and humanity....

Erf. I'm sorry that's how things came to be. I hope you can improve your company and certain people become a bit more conscious of their behavior and its impact.

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