You're right -- as I told Lisa, just above, that was an amazingly weak generalization. I said it 'cause I was grumpy. :-)
I've cared about someone I was in a relationship a lot more than they care about me.
That kind of imbalance is really really tough. *Hugs* to you for having gone through that.
I've also seen life-long couples (or at least, very long-term couples --- they haven't died yet :-) who seem to equally care for each other very deeply,
If you've followed my LJ for a while you probably have seen my references to compiling a list of such people. So far it is very very short.
Um, the rest of this topic got long and tangential and I am going to make it into a separate LJ post. I will try to make it humorous. :-)
My personal theory is that a certain amount of imbalance is inevitable, since people are so different, and changing from time to time. But if the "give a shit"/emotional dependence/need for the other is too unbalanced, it puts the relationship under a pretty huge amount of strain...
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You're right -- as I told Lisa, just above, that was an amazingly weak generalization. I said it 'cause I was grumpy. :-)
I've cared about someone I was in a relationship a lot more than they care about me.
That kind of imbalance is really really tough. *Hugs* to you for having gone through that.
I've also seen life-long couples (or at least, very long-term couples --- they haven't died yet :-) who seem to equally care for each other very deeply,
If you've followed my LJ for a while you probably have seen my references to compiling a list of such people. So far it is very very short.
Um, the rest of this topic got long and tangential and I am going to make it into a separate LJ post. I will try to make it humorous. :-)
My personal theory is that a certain amount of imbalance is inevitable, since people are so different, and changing from time to time. But if the "give a shit"/emotional dependence/need for the other is too unbalanced, it puts the relationship under a pretty huge amount of strain...
Agree with you wholeheartedly on both points.
Thanks for the hugs.