I'm sorry you had that experience. I think you're right that noticing absence is indeed difficult.
Remembering absence once it's been pointed out is also difficult. Friends keep trying to contact me on FB despite having been told I'm gone. Loved ones may or may not notice that I'm addressed in a group message and think to pass along any info.
I do have one person in my life who is pretty consistent about noticing things like that and making sure I hear about them. She has passed along news of mutual friends; she has asked event hosts "I see you sent this to CJ, did you remember she's not on FB?, would you like me to forward the info?" She's very proactive about it and I see it as an immense sign of caring.
It's hard for me to notice that someone hasn't posted to Facebook a while, because it's so chaotic (and getting even more so as Facebook seems to choose at random what to show or not to show). I'm glad you post here, even though I tend to be too quiet here as well.
That makes sense. It was pretty chaotic even when I left last fall.
I was just chatting with a couple of college sophomores/juniors (will be juniors next year) and they surprised me by saying people in the incoming classes very often have never used Facebook at all. The returns are no longer worth the effort for them. Facebook is for old people.
(This may or may not signal its eventual demise. It has lasted a lot longer than many social media platforms! I wonder what will be next.)
I'm glad you're here, even if you tend toward quietness. When you have something to say, I read it. :)
Yes. The noise seems to have reached levels where people are simply not using it any more - and I don't just mean weirdos like me, I mean high school students entering college have never bothered to sign up. It may be on its way out.
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...but yeah. I put a literal "out of order" notice on my account and...it was not particularly noticed.
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Remembering absence once it's been pointed out is also difficult. Friends keep trying to contact me on FB despite having been told I'm gone. Loved ones may or may not notice that I'm addressed in a group message and think to pass along any info.
I do have one person in my life who is pretty consistent about noticing things like that and making sure I hear about them. She has passed along news of mutual friends; she has asked event hosts "I see you sent this to CJ, did you remember she's not on FB?, would you like me to forward the info?" She's very proactive about it and I see it as an immense sign of caring.
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I was just chatting with a couple of college sophomores/juniors (will be juniors next year) and they surprised me by saying people in the incoming classes very often have never used Facebook at all. The returns are no longer worth the effort for them. Facebook is for old people.
(This may or may not signal its eventual demise. It has lasted a lot longer than many social media platforms! I wonder what will be next.)
I'm glad you're here, even if you tend toward quietness. When you have something to say, I read it. :)
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