I've found that I can lower my blood pressure by replacing "x should" by "I would prefer if x". That puts the focus back on me, since I'm the one having the negative feelings, and those are what I can do the most good by changing, since x often doesn't give a good goddamn what my feelings are, except to manipulate them, perhaps.
I like the idea of going to the Shambhala Center, too -- I'm contemplating the feasibility of not just being up, but being somewhere, by 10 on a Sunday morning :-) . I wonder if this Sunday is a particularly good day, or a particularly bad day, for such an excursion?
As far as ignoring bad stuff to stay sane, you say that like it's a bad thing. Most bad stuff you can't do anything about. In my experience, I have no desire to ignore bad stuff that I can do something about -- it's fun to fix it. That's the problem; there's enough of it that I have no choice but to ignore some of it. Oh, and there's that word "can" -- how much of my energy is it worth it (to me) to solve any given problem that I "can" solve?
People can think of any number of reasons why you "should" (i.e., they would prefer if you did) not ignore their pet causes. Yes, you're missing pieces -- get over it. In any case, you'll want to make sure the pieces are to your puzzle, not theirs.
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I like the idea of going to the Shambhala Center, too -- I'm contemplating the feasibility of not just being up, but being somewhere, by 10 on a Sunday morning :-) . I wonder if this Sunday is a particularly good day, or a particularly bad day, for such an excursion?
As far as ignoring bad stuff to stay sane, you say that like it's a bad thing. Most bad stuff you can't do anything about. In my experience, I have no desire to ignore bad stuff that I can do something about -- it's fun to fix it. That's the problem; there's enough of it that I have no choice but to ignore some of it. Oh, and there's that word "can" -- how much of my energy is it worth it (to me) to solve any given problem that I "can" solve?
People can think of any number of reasons why you "should" (i.e., they would prefer if you did) not ignore their pet causes. Yes, you're missing pieces -- get over it. In any case, you'll want to make sure the pieces are to your puzzle, not theirs.