Eating together

[cjsmith]

One thing most people seem to get in the context of a romantic relationship is a default dinner partner. They eat dinner together some or a lot of the time. On a day when nothing particularly unusual is happening, one knows that the other will likely be there for the evening meal. That person will be around; that person is enjoyable to be with; the two of them have a comfortable overlap in their culinary tastes; they have shared experiences to talk about.

Let's say you're paired up romantically but it's a long-distance relationship. Or perhaps your spouse is 100% solar powered and does not ever enter restaurants. Maybe you're allergic to the only food she can eat, or you've taken a vow not to eat in his presence until he learns table manners. In short, you're romantically partnered and gustatorily single. Do you eat alone? Frequently?

If so, and if you live near* me, holler.

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* CJ's definition of "near": less total driving time than social interaction time, even if the driving is during rush hour and the meal is short.

Comments

[dieppe.livejournal.com]

What if you just happen to be in the area? :)

[vito-excalibur.livejournal.com]

Well, where do you live? Mr. E's place of employment provides all the nosh a cube dweller can handle, so I eat alone quite a bit. Mid-Peninsula, me, btw, & you can email me.

[abenn.livejournal.com]

I can't do such a thing without planning ahead because of my schedule, but do I live close enough? I'm in San Leandro.

[lesliepear.livejournal.com]

Drat. You are too far away to meet for lunch :(

[therobbergirl.livejournal.com]

For a few more days only, I work in San Jose. We could meet after work and have something yummy at the Pruneyard!

[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

I'm game. I live in SF but I work in Mountain View... so there are opportunities... =)

how about a $100 burger?

[gev.livejournal.com]

wait.. that would entail enlisting a pilot friend.
even a small jet from here to the Bay Area would take all day.

[cyan-blue.livejournal.com]

I live a little further away than that (Pacifica) but would love to share a meal sometime.

[rampling.livejournal.com]

CJ's definition of "near": less total driving time than social interaction time, even if the driving is during rush hour and the meal is short.

Hmmm.... So, if I drive up, and we have two 6-hour Fabulous Fondue Fests (or perhaps in deference to my (preferably) finite tummy, one 6-hour Fabulous Fondue Fest interspersed with one 6-hour Kittywatching with Long Cat-themed Discussion, that'd fit your "near" criterion, wouldn't it? ;)

[jupiter29.livejournal.com]

(*smile*) I've always hated eating alone in a restaurant, so I never did it while I was single. I just didn't enjoy it. So I've been there, and I would take you up on the offer if I were closer. Heck even now that have a romantic partner, I have had to accept that she can not be in the presence of Chinese food and maintain an appetite, so I'd probably still offer to eat with you, if the interest was there. :) Should I ever get out to California, I'll let you know. ;)

But you've got me awfully curious which of the possibilities you've outlines describes your situation.

[genderfur.livejournal.com]

I like your definition of "near". It fits my criteria for travelling: I must be at my destination for more time than my total travel time to get there and home again.

Which means that I *can* drive from Berkeley to SCruz for a day-visit. And I've done it (oy). When I used to drive to LA a lot to visit someone in bed [g] my criterion was that the trip include at least 1 day with no travel on either end.

[tytso.livejournal.com]

That's me (paired up romantically but gustatorily single). Unfortunately (a) I'm not near, and (b) my sweetie lives in Santa Clara.

We should get together and have dinner sometime, though!

[ambar.livejournal.com]

I'm working in Sunnyvale now, and I don't like to leave until the traffic dies down. Call me. (Emailling new cell # now ...)

[eichin.livejournal.com]

> Or perhaps your spouse is 100% solar powered and does not ever enter restaurants

Not helpful or anything, but there's a play that was produced in Boston by a short-lived theater group called "The Department of Energy", called "Fire of Life", that featured (among other things) "photosynthetic lesbians" (and some evil corporation trying to clone them, or something.) It just lept immediately to mind :-)

[eichin.livejournal.com]

As for the LDR case: I still use zephyr, and have a group of friends who can be cat-herded into dinner trips most nights. We tend to take turns playing alpha (proposing places, beating the uncertain into a consensus, pairing up bodies and car seats) and sometimes it can take hours to converge, but we manage :-)

The rest of the time, frozen dinners or takeout suffice, dinner *should* be social, but *mustn't* be skipped...