having people get upset with me because they thought my actions indicated dating interest when I was just being friendly
Yeah, I used to get this all the @#$!ing time. It happens far less now. I think either I started hanging out with people who don't assume that the world is their wankfantasy, or else I've been scared outta being friendly entirely, or... something. Maybe it's just wearing the wedding band. That scares off the would-be property owners, anyway.
I too am fairly bad at verbal flirting. And when I feel physically safe enough, I'm way TOO good at physical flirting -- again giving a message I didn't (yet?) intend to give. Ah well. I sometimes have the feeling that everyone else figures this out in their teens!
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Yeah, I used to get this all the @#$!ing time. It happens far less now. I think either I started hanging out with people who don't assume that the world is their wankfantasy, or else I've been scared outta being friendly entirely, or... something. Maybe it's just wearing the wedding band. That scares off the would-be property owners, anyway.
I too am fairly bad at verbal flirting. And when I feel physically safe enough, I'm way TOO good at physical flirting -- again giving a message I didn't (yet?) intend to give. Ah well. I sometimes have the feeling that everyone else figures this out in their teens!