I once thought of joining a prepackaged group, but it proved more difficult than I expected.
Sometimes the group dynamic resists change.
If I really want a circle of friends, rather than a set of separate friendships, I think I'm going to have to forge it myself, with help from those that get added. I figure that could take awhile.
Yes - and perhaps the people I'd choose to befriend wouldn't necessarily choose each other. Then there's the question of why or whether a set of friends cohere into a group. I wonder if every group needs its meanie, its flake, its martinet, and its damsel in distress. Hm.
What is the most "target rich" environment...?
Very interesting question. I can think of environments offering specific things (say, folks who are sex-positive) but I am not coming up with any place that's automatically full of people with several key attributes.
I think I need to make MYSELF the environment: be the best CJ I can be, and thus draw to me people who do well around CJs. Then discard the ones I don't like ;-).
...or maybe I'm already thinking too much. I can never tell.
Yeah, me either. Ah well. At least sometimes I learn something!
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Re: Circle of friends...
Sometimes the group dynamic resists change.
If I really want a circle of friends, rather than a set of separate friendships, I think I'm going to have to forge it myself, with help from those that get added. I figure that could take awhile.
Yes - and perhaps the people I'd choose to befriend wouldn't necessarily choose each other. Then there's the question of why or whether a set of friends cohere into a group. I wonder if every group needs its meanie, its flake, its martinet, and its damsel in distress. Hm.
What is the most "target rich" environment...?
Very interesting question. I can think of environments offering specific things (say, folks who are sex-positive) but I am not coming up with any place that's automatically full of people with several key attributes.
I think I need to make MYSELF the environment: be the best CJ I can be, and thus draw to me people who do well around CJs. Then discard the ones I don't like ;-).
...or maybe I'm already thinking too much. I can never tell.
Yeah, me either. Ah well. At least sometimes I learn something!