I'm back

[cjsmith]

I'm back.
Grandma's dead.

the_ogre, I haven't caught up on LJ friends or personal e-mail and I have no car (it's dead too, possibly). If you still want to do lunch today, considering that you'd have to come to the south end of Sunnyvale to get me, reply to this and I'll make sure to get in touch with you.

Comments

sympathy and peace

[shadopanther.livejournal.com]

*hugs* if you want them.

*car good luck wishes*

Take care of yourself.

-- Shadopanther
(A friend of joedecker's. We've met before, at a Tuesday coffee, but I don't know as you remember me.)

[firecat]

please accept my condolences

[joedecker.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Please accept my condolences.

[redgrrl.livejournal.com]

Sorry about your loss, CJ. I hope things are going well for you otherwise.

-Wen

[mighty-sam.livejournal.com]

Bad weekend to be a grandparent: first Ernunnos' grandfather, then mine & the Egg's, and now your grandma. Wow. People should start clearing themselves off our friends lists so as to protect their grandparents.

Re: sympathy and peace

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thank you... 'specially for the car good luck wishes...

(I can't put a face to the name, but I bet I'd recognize you if I saw you.)

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I'd done most of my grieving already, but, well, it's still sad when the moment comes.

At least she knew me when I arrived. (By the time I left she didn't know anybody, and she passed away shortly after I was back in California.) So I'm very glad I got to see her.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thank you. At least I got to see her; she knew me when I arrived. That's a blessing. (By the time I left she didn't know anybody, and she passed away shortly after I was back in California.)

I'd done most of my grieving already, considering how clear it was that this would be terminal, but, well, it's still sad when the moment comes. That sadness is tempered with the knowledge that it's a mercy for her that her pain is over.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thank you. For her, it's a blessing; she's no longer in pain. For myself, I'm very glad I got to see her. When I arrived in Ohio she knew me. (By the time I left she didn't know anybody, and she passed away shortly after I was back in California.)

I'd done most of my grieving already. I'm sorry to miss the funeral but I'm happier to have seen her alive.

Otherwise, hmm, hectic but mostly good. :-)

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Aie. Well, I am now safe: I have no remaining grandparents. So you can keep me on your friends list if you like. :-)

[firecat]

It's good that you got a chance to say goodbye in person.

[sunnydale47.livejournal.com]

Please accept my condolences. It's always hard to lose a loved one, no matter how long it's been expected or how glad you are for them that their painful struggle is over. You're fortunate to have had your grandmother into adulthood -- my last grandparent died when I was 12, and I never had a chance to know any of them well.

I'm not sure I know what kind of healing thoughts cars need -- perhaps hard-edged, steely ones -- but I'll try and send some in case it'll help. ;-)

I offer *hugs* if you would like them.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

It sure is. I'm glad about that.

[tsjafo.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Prayers and good thoughts continuing. I'm glad you are home safely.

[hopeforyou.livejournal.com]

I am so sorry for your loss. It is good to hear that you at least had the opportunity to talk to her when she could still recognise you and could say goodbye. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help, including just giving you space to vent/grieve. Take care.

[wcg.livejournal.com]

Oh CJ, I'm sorry. I hope you can get the car fixed soon. My condolences on the loss of your grandmother. It seems that things went just about as well as you could have hoped. But even so...

[cassidyrose.livejournal.com]

I'm very sorry to hear about your Grandma.

Many ::hugs:: and good thoughts to you. Take care of yourself.

[lesliepear.livejournal.com]

(hugs)

[dawnd.livejournal.com]

Condolences on your Grandma's death. Even when it's "expected" it is still painful.

*hugs*

[lkeele.livejournal.com]

Hugs, deary. How's your mum? How are you?

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Yes, it's always hard, although I'm thankful for the warning... I hadn't seen her in ten years and I'm glad I got the kick in the butt I needed to go talk to her.

I'm sorry to hear you never had a chance to know your grandparents well. Sounds like you didn't get your share of spoilin'. :-(

hard-edged, steely ones

*chuckle* :-)

Thanks for the hugs.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thank you, on both counts.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thanks. Yes, I'm very glad I could talk to her while she still knew me.

At one point she said "I scared you all so much that I got to see all my grandchildren." I told her that showed she was pretty smart. She grinned.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Indeed, things did go as well as I could have hoped. Safe flights, got to talk to Grandma, got to help my mother. I'm very glad about all of that. And though I'm sad she had to go, it's also a mercy... she was in a lot of pain.

I'm crossing my fingers about the car. Transmission. It may be salvageable.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'm doing okay, for now... just a bit on the philosophical side, about life and the meaning thereof. Hopefully that part will pass :-)

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thanks!

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thanks. True enough. At least I'm glad I got to see her, and I'm glad she's no longer in pain.

[cjsmith.livejournal.com]

Thanks. My mom seems to be doing okay -- she said many times that she was very happy I came, so I'm extra glad to have been able to help. Me, I'm mostly okay: a little too pensive about life and the meaning thereof, but hopefully that will pass.

[brian1789.livejournal.com]

oh, dear... (hug) if you want one.

[bklyngirl.livejournal.com]

CJ, I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandma - and I'm really sorry that I have been too preoccupied by my own stuff to have read about this & sent you my condolences before now! I hope that you and your mom are doing okay and you managed to have happy holidays.

{{Hugs}}
Robin