I'm sure they weren't lying outright. They were probably stretching things a little, to be encouraging. :-)
I do think I recovered from my missteps quickly. I doubt NOBODY noticed, but to notice, a person might have had to be watching for it.
I also took a lot of cues from my environment. These cues aren't very subtle, but are rarely codified. Many square dancers can see an outstretched hand and immediately know the answers to "is this for me", "which of my hands should I use", and "are we going to continue to hang on or just pass by after touching hands", but few of those people can teach someone else how they know. The reactions to this sort of thing are fast. Someone who is forewarned to look for this can tell who is giving a cue, who is taking a cue, and who doesn't need a cue but isn't confident enough to give one yet. Probably no one in my square was noticing that I was on the taking-cue end of things alllll the time. But they could have, if they'd been watching me for it.
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I do think I recovered from my missteps quickly. I doubt NOBODY noticed, but to notice, a person might have had to be watching for it.
I also took a lot of cues from my environment. These cues aren't very subtle, but are rarely codified. Many square dancers can see an outstretched hand and immediately know the answers to "is this for me", "which of my hands should I use", and "are we going to continue to hang on or just pass by after touching hands", but few of those people can teach someone else how they know. The reactions to this sort of thing are fast. Someone who is forewarned to look for this can tell who is giving a cue, who is taking a cue, and who doesn't need a cue but isn't confident enough to give one yet. Probably no one in my square was noticing that I was on the taking-cue end of things alllll the time. But they could have, if they'd been watching me for it.