I ask you

[cjsmith]

I hate asking people for things beyond the basic “hey could you hand me that” kind of thing. I knew this. I’m reminded it’s still true. I’m almost pathologically … no. I am absolutely, pathologically resistant to asking anyone to change a behavior in order to make my life easier or happier.

It has come to my attention that this can actually damage relationships.

Sigh.

Comments

[zahraa]

Yeah, three decades of all of those things, wow! Take some pride in it.

I believe that our brains are more malleable than we think, so I think there should be skill-building for trust.

[cjsmith]

I agree wholeheartedly on brains being more malleable than most give them credit for.

I suspect working on trust looks very different if it’s one person working on trust issues in general versus if it’s two people working on one person’s specific, situational lack of trust. I shall noodle on that.