Ohhhhhhhhhh yeah. J and I've been together 18 years and asking for Certain things I needed has been hard for a long time.
I had to start small and build trust. We both did. I had to try and change the things that bothered him, and I had to make a conscious effort to use my WORDS.
Because apparently I still had some of that "if he LOVES ME he would just KNOW" bullshit script remaining... ARGH
and now I use my words more, and we're both having a better time with things .
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I had to start small and build trust. We both did. I had to try and change the things that bothered him, and I had to make a conscious effort to use my WORDS.
Because apparently I still had some of that "if he LOVES ME he would just KNOW" bullshit script remaining... ARGH
and now I use my words more, and we're both having a better time with things .