Ah. I am super sensitive to power imbalances in relationships, so the thing that really bugs me is the lording a position of power over someone else. I find this theme pervasive in fantasy literature, and it's part of why I don't like to read it.
As for the other posturing, I do remember going to parties in the 90's where we would see a lot of behavior that Zyxwvut would describe as "My career is bigger than your career." I merely find that annoying. I think it's really hard to draw the line between the sort of posturing that you're talking about and, "I got a raise!" or "I got a promotion!" or "I won a photo prize!" or even "I hit a 200-day Duolingo streak!" (which are things to which I myself might posture about, and I'm female and short, but you know).
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As for the other posturing, I do remember going to parties in the 90's where we would see a lot of behavior that Zyxwvut would describe as "My career is bigger than your career." I merely find that annoying. I think it's really hard to draw the line between the sort of posturing that you're talking about and, "I got a raise!" or "I got a promotion!" or "I won a photo prize!" or even "I hit a 200-day Duolingo streak!" (which are things to which I myself might posture about, and I'm female and short, but you know).