I think I've only had one person actually say something like that to me, but I always feel like everyone is thinking it.

That's one of the worst poisons of such a message -- it multiplies, because you never know who's simply not saying it. And I completely agree that the only true answer for that is to do what you think is right regardless, and yeah, that's awfully rough!

I too have had the "lazy" tape playing. My posts read as if I'm doing a lot, but there's always something else I'm not doing, some exercise I didn't do to perfection, some dietary weirdness I haven't tried. I've got to learn that there are limits to how much I'm willing to have this take over my life, too, and that doesn't equal lazy.

*hug*.