I want to be sure I'm understanding what you're saying.

The way this is reading, if someone says their happy, they're either self-delusional, or they're one of very few humans who can be aware and still be happy.

I think there are a lot of people who are oblivious to the fact that they're not entitled to happiness, that it's not something someone else can give them. I think those are the truely unhappy, because they are waiting for someone else to fix the world for them.

I think those who are truely happy take responsibility for their happiness, through the pain, disapointment, trauma, etc. It's not a matter of ignoring those things, but acknowledging they exist and are part of life. It's a choice of being ruled by the bad stuff, and dwelling on things you can't change, or dwelling on the good things, the things that can be controlled, the things we do for ourselves to make us happy.

I would consider myself a happy person, overall. I'm not Mary Sunshine, by any stretch of the imagination, but overall I am content with my life, and am working towards chainging the things I want to, and letting go of the things I can't.

I'm not happy about my health. I'm not happy about getting laid off. I'm not happy about some issues in the past.

But dwelling on them does nothing for my life but make me unhappy.

Is this in the realm of what you meant, or am I off the mark?