there is a post being shared on FB pulled from AITA on reddit about a woman whose husband doesn't like her to read because then she is not available to converse with (read: pay attention to) him whenever he desires so she's read, i forget, maybe 3 books in 5 years. i didn't sing with a choral group for the 14 years of my first marriage because my wife didn't take my singing seriously. this story is everywhere, without the feathers.